5 considerations before sharing your sexual past with your partner

Everyone has a past that’s what makes you the person you are today. Your past is bound to have many aspects, including sex. You usually discuss your own life experiences and memories with your loved ones who were not a part of these memories.

To have a partner with whom you may speak and share about your past is among the most beautiful perks of being in a relationship, but when it comes to sharing your sexual past, an individual has to be very cautious as it might result in fallout.

So, if you are still thinking of sharing your sexual past, here are some tips that you can follow:

Have an answer to the ‘Why’

If you are under the impression that it is your obligation to share your past, you are probably mistaken. Your sexual history is no one’s business but yours. In such a case, it’s crucial you know why you wish to discuss it. There’s a reason it’s in that past, it’s not coming back. Hence if you’ve moved on from it it’s your choice whether you want to talk about it or not.

Plan an approach

This is not your usual gossip that you discuss with your partner. It’d be better if you can put some thought to it and decide exactly what you ought to be revealing.

Ditch the details

While you may disclose that you had sexual encounters with multiple individuals, refrain from putting the numbers. Additionally, you need to be smart and dodge questions which force you to spill more beans. You must do it in such a way that your partner is not suspicious and tries to dig up your dirt.

Expect a few reactions

Your partner might not be expecting this or some of the things that you would be sharing and is bound to react unusually. They may vent some anger since they may feel cheated or they may be hurt. You need to take care of the problem with particular simplicity and explain to them that this it was who you were in past and what happened back then and that it is in no way relevant to your present, as your presence is with your partner.

Talk about your learning

If it was for good or bad, tell your partner about it. Talk about the learning that you had. Keep the conversation bit humorous by mentioning bit funny things that happened without spilling out all the details. Tell them about what you liked certain things you tried and would want to try again. This might change the mood of your partner and will help you cool the air a bit.