What is BDSM?

The word BDSM has notable popularity especially due to the 50 shades trilogy. More and more people seem intrigued as to what BDSM exactly is and how the whole things works.

BDSM is variety of erotic practices or role playing that involves Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.

It is kinky pleasure behind the pain of flesh or moral degradation. The concept of BDSM is far beyond simple terminology explained above; this is not just sexual idea but an ardent lifestyle choice which involves the mutual consent of both parties.

Is it normal to practice BDSM?

It is fine for individual to not like the practice of BDSM, also here is nothing to be ashamed of if you like it. However, it is most important to consider the ethics of BDSM when choosing this lifestyle. With the growing curiosity, changing lifestyle, abundance of porn, information, etc their surely is market for this. You just need to figure out your comfort zone.

BDSM is not abusive but consensual

Consent, Communication and Agreement are the fundamentals of BDSM love. Yes it embraces a form of exchange of power and domination but it is consensual. It changes acts of violence from rage to celebration and brings a sense of bonding between the two participants. To keep a healthy and positive interaction, keep these considerations in mind.

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Abuse involves, non-consenting parties where abuser cruelly degrades the the victim.

Living Fantasy with BDSM

BDSM is a healthy way to act the fantasies with your partner and explore new experiences, couples who often are in long term relationship complain about boredom in sex. BDSM can sparkle the sex life. If both of you find the idea of BDSM exciting, even if in the form of light bondage, it could do wonders to your sex life.

BDSM is not sickness

A common misconception that revolves around BDSM is that people who engage in BDSM are the ones who are emotially troubled and mentally sick which is not true. BDSM is just a lifestyle that can followed by normal people having no miserable past.

Ethics of BDSM

The most important principle of BDSM is mutual consent, not just implied but expressed consent in all BDSM situations for long term functioning of Dominant and Submissive partner. Also, set your boundaries beforehand and decide your do’s and dont’s.

While in action it is easy to get carried away and get a little too adventurous, but if everything is discussed openly without holding back any insecurities it helps as the intention of the act is mutual satisfaction.

Safe words in BDSM

Safety words are the words that are intended to bring the act to immediate stop or give a reality check to the whole act. It could be any word pre-decided between submissive and dominant partner.

Protestation is often part of the game in BDSM and hence “No” often doesn’t quality for word to stop the act. Safe Word are defined before the act and become the indisputably clear and undeniable request to stop. With safety words, BDSM players can signal an irrefutable withdrawal of consent.

Start slow with BDSM

Start slow with BDSM act, pick one fantasy that you both want to act and expand gradually. As you get adventurous you can further explore on different BDSM gears and different extremity levels.

BDSM Game

You can combine Role-playing and Stranger sex on a weekend to get the first feel of BDSM sex. This requires you to setup and think through the situation.

You and your partner can meet at public place probably a bar or any place that gets your aderlaine rushing. Arrive separately and talk to each other like first timers.

Introduce yourself as someone else, some mysterious person or a fantasy.

Head out to a hotel as first timers and get wild.

Add the zing to the play by giving instructions to submissive partner to follow and disregard to the instruction can be rewarded by Spank.

Don’t forget to decide on Safe word

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