20 women describe their awful virginity loosing experience

Painful and awkward. In car somewhat drunk but also the lack of skill on both our parts to get going properly or communicate. And the blood. Everywhere. Got home and my mom knew since I bleed on my jeans

2. Runny nose but not your snot is how it felt

“Imagine someone sticks their finger up your nose and wiggles it and thrusts it around up in there a few times and then afterwards your nose is runny, but it’s not your snot coming out.

If necessary, add a rubber glove to the experience, and the other hand is randomly fucking with your nipples like they’re tuning the radio for some reason.”

2. Nervous boyfriend who flopped around like a dying fish.

“Awkward. My boyfriend was also a virgin and we were losing it together. He was so nervous he kept missing and kind of flopped around like a dying fish… Didn’t help that we were on his water bed…”

3. Is it in yet? Oops, its done, moment.

“Totally had an is it in yet? Moment. Twas awkward. He finished in like 40 seconds. I didn’t even come close to getting off. Plus we were outside and it was cold. Second time was way better. Having a partner who chooses to get you off first is awesome!”

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4. Bent over a couch and my shorts didn’t even come all the way off..

“Ugh. The worst. Bent over a couch and my shorts didn’t even come all the way off. Also he answered a phone call during. And then asked me to make a phone call, also during (which I refused). Then afterwards (knowing that I had been molested when I was a kid) he said it was weird that I didn’t bleed and suggested that maybe I had been raped by my uncle and had just forgotten about it.

That guy was the worst.”

5. Laying there, looking up at ceiling thinking’this is it?’

“Went over to my boyfriend’s house after school on a day we knew his parents and sister wouldn’t be home. I remember laying there looking up at the ceiling during it and just thinking ‘this is it?’ A tiny bit of pain but otherwise it didn’t really feel like anything special. I expected to feel so different afterwards but I didn’t at all.”

6. Bloody sex.

“Born with a hymen more unbreakable than Kimmy Schidt. I tried many times to have sex and just couldn’t get past the gate and each try was extremely painful and left me feeling undesirable. Finally after many failed attempts he was forceful enough to tear me open. BLOOD. EVERYWHERE. Then sex kinda felt like moist flesh rubbing aggressively over an open wound….”

7. I was dry, even before he could get inside me

“Painful. Painful to a point where I sweated more than I’ve ever sweated in my life. It was horrible and I thought ‘This is what sex is?! This is what people are obsessed about?’ He only lasted about 10 seconds when he was in, but it took him about 10 minutes to even get in me because I was so damn dry.”

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8. Neither of us got even close to finishing.

“I lost my virginity this past August. It wasn’t what I expected. I couldn’t relax so the pain, during, was ridiculous. Plus, neither of us got even close to finishing.”

9. More painful than oral surgery.

“A few years back, I had an oral surgery where part of my tongue (the part connecting it to the bottom of my mouth) was burnt away with a laser. There was supposed to be anesthesia, but it didn’t work, or it wasn’t effective, or whatever, and I felt the whole thing.

Compared to losing my virginity, that surgery was downright painless.”

10. Disappointing.

“Disappointing. ‘Is this it?’ Mind you, it was over in two minutes, it was an in and out operation, it was awkward and there was noooo foreplay. It got way better later.”

11. Four thrusts and done.

“Drunk af. On my parents’ bed. Had my 16th birthday party over a weekend, parents away for two nights with my little brother, and I had their permission to invite people over. The whole woo-hoo was so damn cringey and since he came on like the fourth thrust (later learned he had a huge problem with this), it didn’t last long. Blamed my friend for starting her period for the reason of why I changed the sheets.”

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12. It was just a whole bunch of awkward.

“It was just a whole bunch of awkward. I had no clue what I was doing. Guy claimed to know what he was doing, but I’m not sure if I agree with that.

My legs weren’t long enough to straddle him. At one point he fell off the bed. He realized he was about to orgasm but wanted to last longer so he ran into the bathroom?? It was laughably bad.”

13. It hurt so bad I was waddling the entire day.

“Very painful. I remember feeling like closing my eyes and getting it over, it hurt so bad I was waddling the entire day.”

14. It was just humiliating and painful.

“Terrible, honestly. I was dating him, and he wasn’t my first boyfriend, but we hadn’t been together long and it was our first time seeing each other in awhile (different colleges). We were both pretty serious people, and we didn’t know each other well enough to laugh at the situation. So when he kept coming out while thrusting, or when it hurt at first, we super weren’t able to laugh it off, it was just humiliating and painful. Which is weird, because I am the least susceptible person to awkward silences ever. It was so bad.”

15. I was 21, drunk, and the first words out of my mouth were ‘Is that it?’

“I had decided, at some point, I wanted to lose my virginity in a Motel 6. When it finally happened, I was 21, drunk, and the first words out of my mouth were ‘Is that it?’ Not surprisingly, he dumped me a week later.

Yes, it only lasted a minute (he said it was because we had been making out for so many days and he had all this shit pent up…) but I actually was surprised at how little it hurt, the lack of blood, and just how…normal I felt afterwards. I thought I would be more excited and triumphant but I just felt meh. Not exactly the life-changing big deal that had been shoved down my throat all my life.”

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16. He got performance anxiety and was too soft to penetrate me.

“He came over to my house, got performance anxiety and was too soft to penetrate me. I had to literally climb on top and cram his dick in….then it was over about 1 minute later.”

17. I was 17 and it absolutely sucked for me.

“I was 17 and it absolutely sucked for me. We tried for hours and it hurt so bad that I just cried. When I finally ‘popped’ though, the pain was completely gone, and it was all uphill from there.”

18. My first was like “meh”

My hymen had already broken before I had sex (combination of horseback riding and tampon use) so the 1st time was not painful for me, but it was kind of “meh” – mostly because I was too shy/ignorant to be able to tell him what worked well to get me off. As I got a bit older and gained some confidence I learned to speak up and it got way better. Eventually I learned that masturbating together is a great way to see how your partner likes to be touched and how to get them off the way they like.

My bf and i were both 18, and both virgins. I climbed into his bedroom window at night when his parents were sleeping (we planned it). We had sex for about 2 minutes, but i stopped it because it was really painful, and i was so anxious about his parents walking in. He told me we had to try again soon, or he was going to get blue balls. I was so worried, and planned for us to have sex at my parents place when they werent home the same week. I remember being pretty sick, but went through it anyways because i didnt want him to get hurt.

The sex was horrible, i was exhausted and in pain, and he was just happy with the fact that he had sex. Ladies, don’t let anyone manipulate you into having sex. If your gut says no, please listen to that. I wish i had the courage and sense to say, “Shut the fuck up, its not my responsibility to get you off”.

Source: Reddit

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